Think for yourself. Be careful around people who say you think too much. They may want to think for you.
External advice can confuse your internal compass in a similar way magnets on either side of the compass can make the dial spin around. To recenter in stillness and go where you want to go, doing what you want to do: find out what matters most to you by thinking about your perfect day alone.
There is no perfect person out there for you. You may see a projection of your desire on a person (this is sometimes called rose tinted glasses). Instead of trying to fill a role, which will make your partner feel confined or trapped, find out who they are by smelling them.
Body chemistry changes with age. Someone who does not smell good to you (unparfumed) is likely a bad biological match. Do not force yourself to be with someone that smells bad to you when they sweat no matter how funny, beautiful, charming, or otherwise perfect for you they seem. They can be a great friend. If you doubt the biological match, get a blood test. Rh factors weigh in significantly during pregnancy. Using the whole brain-body system when considering your 5, 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 year plans.
Be careful of people who claims to have everything in common with you. They may have studied your posts on the Internet and want to seem like the perfect person for you. This does not mean to be paranoid. The odds of there being someone out there who likes the things you do is statistically quite high considering the population of people on the planet.
Everyone knows lust is not love. Lust and love can coexist. The number of times you are intimate does not mean anything when it comes to love. Love is, and doesn’t go away no matter what you or the other person does.
Love forgives, but may hurt your ego sometimes. Sometimes people who love someone hurt the person they say they love. That is because they forgot their heart and went someplace else in their memory, mind, or projection.
Sorting out things is not always hard but requires listening. No one can make anyone listen, see, feel, think any particular way without your permission. Certain people are easier manipulated than others. Knowing this about yourself, you can feel inside when you are out of internal congruence over time.
For various reasons in the moment, the gut reaction is sometimes but not always correct. Since the body is totally connected within and without, trusting your gut instinct alone can also lead to trouble.
People behave out of character, more often than not, because they are seeking something outside of themselves they already have within and forgot.
Many unconscious behaviors become conscious over time.
Giving people time is not the same thing as forgiving inexcusable behavior.
Inexcusable behavior is probably documented somewhere within your state or governing body.
Heartbreak can be deadly. If you survive it, then you can love again. Pain is not the end. Pain is an opportunity for learning. Pain should not be prolonged nor band-aided. Pain needs proper attention and care for successful healing.
We live in a time where violence is not permitted unless you are the government. Remember this when dating. You may or may not be eligble for certain types of employment if you date someone who works within the military or government.
No one can tell you how long to date before making a decision. Decisions do not have to be forever. People break promises, contracts, items all the time. The only thing that makes forever happen is a continual decision to commit to individual and shared growth.
If your growing is hindered, you might start to look like a tree at Versaile. It’s not a bad thing. Know that class governed by formality has codes for where you can let yourself be wild.
Everyone is wild inside still. We are part of the animal kingdom and can choose to behave with our executive functions alongside our sense of humanity. One or the other, wihtout the other will turn you into a sort of robot or some kind of avant-garde expressionist. Along the spectrum, you can paint yourself, the world, whatever you want-but at the end of the day, we are all naked, human, bones.
The truth doesn’t always set you free, but it will set you on your path. The question is are you afraid or loving of the unknown?
Fear tends to create violence. Therefore Love is what we all know required for creating. And since Love is imagined to be not enough, though we live in times of plenty, if you think back to that day alone, to the air you can breath, the water you can drink, is there anything other than Love that exists within peace?
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Taking Time Towards Forever