When you die, you no longer fear death or anyone. The meaning of the infamous “Grateful Dead” carries so much significance in this way. I am really not a big fan of how-to guides, 12 steps, or any other gurus or life advice…but I have found this structure useful. Perhaps you might as well.
How to change your life:
1 Deciding what you want different
2 Learning
3 Doing what you need to
Falling back is the natural flow of life when trauma shakes the nervous system too much. Pushing forward occurs as a structural result of understanding. These concepts are not mine but exposed in this book and others:
The Path of Least Resistance, and Identity: Why It Doesn’t Matter What you Think About Yourself. https://www.robertfritz.com/
Today’s consulting economy is a bit like the artistry economy: just because you think you could do that, doesn’t mean you can or even will do it. A critic is an important sediment to the cynic and yet it is the visionary brave enough to bare his heart to the world that creates something with it. It take a lot of energy and focus to change. The discomfort is the least of it; that’s for pansies which turn out to be pretty damn resilient…that’s the meaning of this installation anyway:
Winter is a period of transformation. It’s dark; it’s cold; it’s all the things egos complain about, but it is where dreams blossom and the imaginary realm flourishes.
Change comes from within.
Structural thinking can be useful to the discipline, however each individual has their own way. So these guidelines are not meant to be explicitly followed but provide a springboard and nourishing reflex point to contend with.
Ultimately you are making up your own mind, decisions. and so forth.
Love starts with listening.
Therefore you must start to listen to yourself. And when you choose to love your work or another person, you also listen and see if this aligns with your path.
Anything other than love devolves quickly toward fighting and subversion.
Why is real love not more revered? Perhaps there hasn’t been enough suffering in awhile. (I don’t fancy that concept much). Perhaps it is the ideal: the beauty of that which rises to the surface in the darkness.
Heaven help us: I haven’t the answers for you, but I am pretty sure you have the answer for you, if you have the courage to let yourself hear it, feel it, and communicate it to who matters for you.
Pansies